First and foremost of all: both parts of the couple have to make the effort. If one of the two puts all the desire to make the relationship work and follows all the advice but the other is not for the work, the relationship will fail.
We give you tips to improve your life as a couple
Be flexible
Being flexible starts with putting aside personal needs and attending to those of your partner. Ask yourself a question, would you be willing to leave everything for that person?
Everything has a limit, of course. You are not going to be that genie of the lamp and every time he rubs you appear to satisfy his desires. But it is important that you realize those little things that can help a lot if they are taken care of and paid attention to, without letting them pass you by.
Coming home after 12 hours of work and having to make dinner, shower the children, prepare the next day’s meal, shower yourself and do it all by yourself. How about a little help? Better not? If when you walk through the door into your home sweet home and at least one of those tasks on the list is done, it is one less burden to deal with that night. Well that, that is flexibility and that will help you begin to improve your relationship. Go for it!
Communicate
The “I get angry and I do not breathe” is not a solution for the relationship. Not at the beginning, not when you’ve been with that person for years. The most important thing, and we have already repeated it many times in Zhazz, is communication .
Continuing with the example that we have given previously, if you come home and see that nothing has been done, you have to tell them. Because only then can you begin to understand and know the needs that you have and that you need to be a little more attended by the other party.
If you ask things reasonably and present them in a rational way, you will surely be able to increase the flexibility of both, thanks to communication. Although, let us warn you that… If you have tickets to go to the theater on the night of the classic and your partner is a football fan, good luck! Most soccer fans are not that flexible.
Spend time with each other
Weather. Building a good relationship takes time. Nowadays we live in a rush, we have an extra gear 24 hours a day and we do not stop to observe what we have around us, because we do not have time for it. Ask yourself a question, are you dedicating the time it deserves to your relationship? Working and sleeping are the two activities to which we dedicate the most hours, but there must also be leisure time, dining together, watching a movie …
You can’t wait for your relationship to improve if you don’t “feed” it on the little things that made you fall in love with each other. You must learn to put your relationship first, to prioritize it. The more time you spend on it, the more rewards you will get from the other. Because spending time together will make you feel more valuable and loved. And that, in the long run, will translate into a closer connection that will make you both feel better.
Getting a good relationship is easy if you know how
A relationship is based on love , respect, trust and reciprocity . So far, it is something we all know. But then why is it so hard for us to keep a partner or be happy together?
The answer to this question is basically that we do not know how to live together. In the past, couples lasted a lifetime and although it is true that the economic independence that women have today has caused more couples to separate, it is also true that tolerance – in a good way, without referring to any type of abuse – Fortunately he was older .
The problem today is that we have become so demanding that we even intend to change the other person, their essence, their being in the world and this has no reason to be.
If you do not like the person you are with, the best thing is that you do not waste his time anymore and separate your paths but never try to change them.
First, because you will hardly get it, people do not change overnight and much less because someone else wants it; and, secondly, because then you will not be united with someone authentic and spontaneous, but with someone who acts in a specific way to please you, which can lead to a multitude of lies, misunderstandings and so on. Something that certainly will not make the couple work better.
What is an unhappy relationship like?
Unhappy relationships usually group a series of characteristics that are easy to detect:
They are demanding
As always, the demand is the mother of emotional discomfort and in the field of the couple relationship it was not going to be less. Couples that do not work are usually demanding, that is, they want the other to act according to their criteria, which of course, they think is the only valid one. This only generates arguments to try to make the other behave differently than they usually do, as well as battles to see who is right.